It's a rule of thumb. When you start dating, they ask you when you are going to get married. When you get married, they ask you when your going to start a family. And once you start a family? They want to know when you are going to have another.
Its the never ending, forever asking question.
And now that Logan is just over a year, it seems the question is getting asked more often. It doesn't seem to matter that I have told people that yes we want another. It doesn't seem to matter that we say, if all goes as planned another two years from now. It doesn't even matter that I tell them unlike most we want a bit of an age gap. And no I am not talking twelve years either.
Because what people here, is what they want to hear. They hear that we want another one and run with it. They assume that because want another one we want another one like yesterday.
Its not just about one person, but it seems to be everyone. From the coworker you never talk to, to your parents, your friends and the most recent, your sister. Who keeps mentioning that Logan needs a playdate.
Fine, he needs one. I get it. But isn't that what cousins are for? At the moment I am perfectly content with letting him get along with all four of his cousins.
Totally content with it.
I know this isn't just an exclusive thing for Andy and myself. I know that there are thousands of couples who deal with the same pressures as we face. And heaven forbid any of them for wanting just one kid. For being happy with just one kid.
Because in this sort of world, that just doesn't seem to be option.
And whether you like it or not. Someone always has a plan for you.
And a lot of ways, you seem to have no say.
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